Comments on: en veille

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 17 Apr 2006 16:08:36 +0000

I’ve enjoyed this blog immensely for months, thanks so much for sharing so much of yourself with your readers. I am the exact same age as you, Petite, and went through the break-up of a 5 year marriage just a few months before your relationship with Mr Frog ended. My husband was French as well – we met in Europe but lived together in Canada together. Anyways, about half a year after our separation, I met a new man and had stars in my eyes. When that relationship ended as well (it was too early for me), I decided to pursue my own interests and not to date for a while. I ended up learning to salsa dance, and am now passionately dancing every weekend. I’ve lost 15 pounds, feel great, and am enjoying my independence immensely. I highly recommend taking up a new hobby – the sense of accomplishment and pride helps assuage the inevitable bouts of loneliness. Mind you, there is nothing to replace the enormous high of being in love – but for me salsa dancing is a way to express my passion for life and love without having to give up too much of myself to a man before I’m ready.

By: Greavsie

Greavsie — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 20:32:32 +0000

I get told off about being negligent with my underwear. It’s wearing very thin.

The statement, not the underwear.

By: Paola

Paola — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 14:00:51 +0000

The hardest thing about being single is the nagging doubt at the back of your mind that it will never end. But it will. Just believe.

That new man will turn up when you’re good and ready -when you don’t need anyone else to press your ‘play’ button but can do it for yourself. In the meantime just enjoy the new opportunities and freedoms that life will bring you every day.

I look back on my days of singledom in my early thirties with huge nostalgia and know that I would have enjoyed them even more if I’d been able to fully extinguish the nagging doubt.

By: Ralph

Ralph — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 13:39:12 +0000

Hey petite – you know, I think we all live life like that. It’s ups and downs, there and back again, all the time. Best just to accept it.

By: old school friend

old school friend — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 10:04:40 +0000

PS Of course it’s hard though – nobody is denying that… Maybe there is some new interest or activity that you could throw yourself into to take your mind off everything? That’s usually the best way. And who knows, it might in time lead you to Mr Right – someone who shares your outlook and passions.

By: old school friend

old school friend — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 10:02:04 +0000

Petite, I think some people are misinterpreting what your well-meaning family and friends meant (or this one at least). “Revelling in your single status” means giving yourself a break – enjoying just being yourself for a while – NOT taking up a wild party lifestyle in a bid to find a new man as soon as possible. Kerry, that’s in fact exactly the same as what you’re advising!

By: Kerry

Kerry — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 21:22:54 +0000

Give yourself a break Petite! I would think you’d still be in the grieving process … not exactly ready to revel in your single status … that can come later. Take care of YOU and get to know YOU. After leaving my marriage with three little boys in tow, I’ve been happily single for over three years. Of course, I’d love nothing more than for someone special to come along and sweep me off my feet ~ I am a romantic, after all ~ but I’m prepared to wait … not rush into another crappy situation out of a perceived need for love and security (which, really, can not be met simply by the presence of a warm body beside you!). I deserve that much. In the meantime, enjoy the quiet time of being just you and your daughter.

Please don’t just ‘tread water’ … that’s taking away all credit to your being.

By: Pierre Clavilier

Pierre Clavilier — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 15:14:59 +0000

Thank you for wrtitting this blog

Pierre

By: Aaron Seasearch

Aaron Seasearch — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 11:23:58 +0000

No no no no no no no.
No.
There ain’t no meaning and there ain’t no point.
Don’t go searching for it or you’ll fritter your life away when you should be getting on with living it.

By: travelingpixie

travelingpixie — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 06:57:12 +0000

First time writer here…wow, how i completely empathize with everything you wrote. As a single, 30 something, I feel completely lost and am searching for more meaning in this thing we call life. Thank you all positive thinkers out there. Although I agree to some extent with your comments, the hardest thing to do when one is down is pick oneself up from the abyss. However, having the support of ‘friends’ and ‘lovers’ always does help. I know, Petite, though that these dark, lonely, feeling sorry for oneself days will pass. Knowing this is what keeps me going day to day. I wish you well.