Comments on: apprehensive

By: Dave of the Lake

Dave of the Lake — Tue, 24 Jan 2006 14:22:20 +0000

Tess wrote:

“That’s all from me.”

Don’t let the door hit your bum on the way out………

By: Angie

Angie — Tue, 24 Jan 2006 12:51:03 +0000

crickey, as Miss Lisa says, it is the Tuesday after and you are keeping us on tenterhooks, Petite. Take pity and tell us all.

By: Miss Lisa

Miss Lisa — Tue, 24 Jan 2006 02:15:17 +0000

crickey! Tess is just plain NASTY! And PATRONISING! Petite, write what you like – I, and most others, will have our opinion – we may share it online, we may not – but I’m sure most of us realise that our ‘knowledge’ of you is necessarily limited by the fact that it’s an online medium, we don’t (well most of us) actually know you … and even if we did, who’s to say we’d know any more than you let us in on here?

By: Julia

Julia — Mon, 23 Jan 2006 16:59:08 +0000

I think it takes a lot of courage to write so openly and honestly about your life Petite and I admire you for doing so and enjoy reading your posts

This is your blog, you write what you chose and people can love it or leave it

it’s easy to criticise and condemn but often when we do so the person we condemn most harshly is ourselves

By: J

Sun, 22 Jan 2006 12:36:31 +0000

Tess seems to know a lot about Petite, despite supposedly not having visited since September. Obviously they have acquaintances in common. Surely personal grudges are best dealt with on a personal level. What’s the problem – did Petite do better academically or socially than you, Tess? Get over it! Petite is sometimes accused of ‘nombrilisme’ yet you expect people to remeber/care about your comments from 4 months ago. Petite, whom I do not know from the proverbial Adam, will have to take it on trust, that it’s extemely rare for me to be able to say:’de quoi je mèle’ with a straight face. Petite can write what she wants, when she wants, and does not need permission from those of us who enjoy popping in for an update. It’s a free country – another first – first time I’ve said that about France. Hope this comment isn’t counter-productive!

By: Belle

Belle — Sun, 22 Jan 2006 06:10:53 +0000

All that is necessary for your weekend to be a success, Petite, is for you to remember that Jims’ friends are all HUMAN. No one has the right to judge you because of the circumstances under which you met or otherwise. Are you assuming that everyone whom you will meet is of such impeccable manners and moral character that you cannot possibly live up to the expectations that you are assuming them to have?

If this is the case, all that does is put an enormous amount of pressure on you to conform to behavior that you think will be acceptable to them and may cause Jim to feel that he has to “protect” you,consciously or not.

Please remember that his friends ARE his friends because they know and love him – they trust his judgement(the ONLY one that matters!)enough to want to meet YOU – YOU, who are THE woman in his life!!

Remember your:

strength,beauty,wisdom,love,compassion,humour and

seriously negligent underpants!

Wishing you Seriously negligent weekend!!

By: SideshowPete

SideshowPete — Sun, 22 Jan 2006 02:39:54 +0000

I had a similar situation.

The first time my (now) wife met my friends was at our engagement party in England. She’s from the US. Although we’d spent 9 months talking over that there interweb, in reality we’d only spent less than a week in each other’s company and everyone knew it. Poor girl had to deal with about 100 people, friends and family, pretty much all for the first time, all in one go.

Their reaction ? They all liked her, but then they wanted to. Sure a couple of people I was particularly close to were a little suspicious, but that’s… well, that’s close female friends for you.

Ultimately they’ll all probably look at it the same way : he’s a decent person and, thus, he’s not about to hook up with some barmy floozy, so you must be a pretty person to.

Go to Sheffield, go enjoy yourself, and if you can tell me where I can find a decent curry in Florida I’d appreciate it.

Pete

By: Jude

Jude — Sat, 21 Jan 2006 23:32:05 +0000

No. 50. Tess – “That’s all from me.”

Good. Hope you stick to your word.

By: Skorky

Skorky — Sat, 21 Jan 2006 18:54:37 +0000

Quite obviously, Petite sees the benefit of a comments box/public forum. She met her Lover through that medium, didn’t she? Seeing as this relationship is going so well that she is now meeting his friends, I might even venture to say that it was worth the criticism.

By: Tess

Tess — Sat, 21 Jan 2006 13:56:34 +0000

And one final thing: there is some inconsistency between saying you don’t care who knows and then worrying about what people think (that they will judge you). This was why I was advocating discretion before. Not from a moral high horse as Jim claimed, but from experience. But then you don’t want advice, so as my grandmother said, “If you can’t listen you have to feel.”
That’s all from me.