Comments on: advice

By: Rivka

Rivka — Fri, 01 Jul 2005 03:15:50 +0000

Don’t want to give you advice or anything that could be considered as advice …it’s just that one has built up an idea of you and mr frog in domestic bliss and all of a sudden there’s CB guy, who is probably really great, but one feels a certain attachment to familiar faces..or rather names..which may account for all the advice..or is that too obvious?

By: Anne

Anne — Thu, 30 Jun 2005 10:10:20 +0000

Really moving post. You are right to take ownership of what heppens to you. Good luck with your new relationship.

By: dan

dan — Thu, 30 Jun 2005 01:59:10 +0000

Well put, Petite…for all those tools out there going on about ‘not judging’ note that it is not on PA’s wishlist – a sign of her superior intelligence relative to many comment leavers.
It’s like the OC, you raise lots of important issues in a fun way, and you have made us care about all the characters. Obviously most readers will be intent on doing a lot of yes, judging on the unfolding story and deciding which character they like most etc. What on earth would a story be without it?

By: kjr

kjr — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 20:55:24 +0000

Well, advice is probably precisely the reason I haven’t commented for ages. Not a big advice-giver – what do I know about anything???

Anyway, I have been reading and thinking about you and hoping that everything is going well and am glad that it seems to be so far…

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 16:05:16 +0000

My advice to you is don’t listen to other people’s advice!

By: Nicholas

Nicholas — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 13:20:36 +0000

Well – I am an English man who lives in France who has recently been left by his wife.. I am now very happily in love with another girl, but I have some advice that helped me and may help your Mr Frog.. Please pass it on if you can.. It helped me through the bad times..

1) Take it one day at a time – don’t expect anything, and don’t try to think too far ahead

2) Stay calm – don’t be abrasive
3) Keep off the booze – obviously related to rule 2

4) Realise you cannot change the past – and even if you had done things differently the outcome might have been the same

5) Look after yourself first – the children will be ok, and they definitely will not be ok if you aren’t..

I also think it is important to cry about it – if he doesn’t do that now he probably will later, at a time when a new girlfriend might not understand.

I have three children with my ex-wife, and now live very close by, and hope all will work out for her as well as for me. She was having an affair and I definitely felt betrayed and hurt – but these things do happen, and many people go through many worse things and survive..

Be strong Mr Frog.. This is a new beginning, not an end..

And good luck to you too Petite, but look after his kid and treat him fairly..

By: seldom

seldom — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 12:06:00 +0000

Delurking, to say that I will not give advice either… I am enjoying your writing, and the snapshots of Paris and your life. Just wondering if you would have been as open with the new developments in your life if your new love had not been related to blogging. Or could he not NOT have been?

By: christina

christina — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 10:50:48 +0000

Smiling right along with you, petite, and so glad you’ve done what’s right for YOU. True love is a wonderful thing snd sometimes we find it in the strangest places. Ask me how I know.

By: jin-ah

jin-ah — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 07:22:21 +0000

stressqueen wrote: “Those who condemn you only seem to see the world in black and white.”

While I am happy for petite, and admittedly in no small part because of the personal relevance of her choices, I sometimes feel pangs of fear that I think are reflected in people’s naysaying. The flipside of the excitement and sheer joy of being the one in love is the anguish and pain of the one being left. And I think sometimes of how dreadful it would be if I was the one being told, “hon, I’ve found someone else, and I knew YOU would understand.” Encouraging couples to stick together through thick and thin does promote stability, a societal safety net even if it smothers out individual gratification.

There’s no black and white, only shimmering and murky shades of grey.

By: Valkyrie

Valkyrie — Wed, 29 Jun 2005 07:04:10 +0000

GO YOU. You definitely have your head & your heart in the right place – to hell with what anyone else thinks…this is YOUR life.