Comments on: letter http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/ Mon, 10 Oct 2011 07:58:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: grannyp http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1003 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 09:49:54 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1003 You write as if you have turned into your own twin – another being out there with another family. Scary.

As for your mother – to have held you like that and then had to lose you. But maybe at 16 she might not have coped with bringing you up.

I had to help a young woman a few years back – mentally ill, disturbed, who had to make the decision to give up her own baby. And did: very bravely. She really could not have looked after him. In due course he would have been taken away for sure – it had happened to 2 other babies she’d tried to keep. She refused to see him. I went for her and took some pictures. But she was still made to register his birth herself. She can’t read or write. I had to go with her. The registrar was kind – but why put her through it? Cruel world.

Your story is so painful; but rather wonderful. Tread carefully. Good luck.

]]> By: Valkyrie http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1002 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 08:40:25 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1002 Oh my. Can you begin to describe the emotion that you felt? I cannot imagine how powerful an impact that letter must have made on you. Did you ever go and meet her? Your bio dad? Your brothers? Did you think of them as family? Or just acquaintances? So true what one poster said earlier about parents really not always knowing what’s best for their teenage kids.

]]> By: Zinnia Cyclamen http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1001 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 08:19:23 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1001 Oh Petite – oh my goodness – I’ve only just caught up with this incredible, moving, touching story, thank you so much for writing it. And gimme gimme gimme more more more please!
I guess this is a good moment in your blogging history for you to get an honourable mention in the Guardian, it’s at http://blogs.guardian.co.uk/news/archives/cat_blogroll.html if you haven’t seen it yet. Go check out your stat counter, and then write us another of these thrilling, searing, glorious posts (no pressure though):lol:
Take care
Zinnia

]]> By: Emma http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1000 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 07:52:44 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-1000 Oh Golly

]]> By: Popsie http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-999 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 03:39:55 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-999 A neighbour of mine had a similar situation to you, her biological parents married and had another child. Hers was tragic as the one day she had the courage to knock on their door, after months of driving past, was the day after her biological father’s death. The first family event she attended was her father’s funeral.

]]> By: Jesus http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-998 Tue, 07 Dec 2004 00:10:26 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-998 Really interesting. Tomorrow the third part of the stpry, please.

]]> By: petite http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-997 Mon, 06 Dec 2004 22:17:28 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-997 Thank you all for your lovely comments. I wanted to find the right tone and these posts have been drafted and re-drafted.

I wanted to avoid at all costs sounding like an item from that dreadful old radio one show ‘our tune’, with Zeffirelli’s ‘Romeo and Juliet’ playing in the background.

Chameleon – your comment has reminded me of the film ‘The Magdelene Sisters’. Harrowing viewing.

]]> By: Chameleon http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-996 Mon, 06 Dec 2004 20:44:02 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-996 The social stigma attached to single parenthood in general and teenage pregnancy in particular is alive and well (for proof just open the pages of the Daily Mail on a quiet day when its journalists are not indulging in scandal-mongering concerning the concupiscence of cabinet members – the vitriol against benefit scroungers and council flat queue jumpers demonstrates that unregulated/transgressive female sexuality is still demonized), in spite of the fact that in the UK and elsewhere most children are now born out of wedlock. Thankfully the days when unmarried mothers were locked away in asylums to contemplate the error of their ways have gone for good. As a former single mother myself I am glad to have been born at a juncture when such punishments had already been outlawed. Now we just have disapproval and the occasional bout of moral censure to contend with. I just wanted to let you know that I have found the last couple of posts both sensitive and moving.

]]> By: yayaempress http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-995 Mon, 06 Dec 2004 20:29:02 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-995 It’s so great that you two have contact. I have no idea what your relationship is present day, but I hope only good things for you. :wink:

]]> By: chris holland http://petiteanglaise.com/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-994 Mon, 06 Dec 2004 18:01:44 +0000 http://www.petiteanglaise.com/archives/2004/12/06/letter/#comment-994 A beautiful story, Petite :) You take care now! :)

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